A place for everything and everything in it’s place never rang more true than at the home of my last client. After being laid off from her oil and gas industry job, she visited her mother in Colorado. After losing her oil and gas job, she decided to visit her mother in Colorado. She decided to make the most of her time off and financial ability.
After being laid off her last job in the oil and gas industry, she decided to go visit her mother in Colorado; making the most of the time off and taking the trip while she was still financially able. One week into the trip and my client broke her ankle! Her short visit ended up being months of surgeries and physical therapy.
As a single woman without anyone at home to care for her, she stayed with her mom. An adventure for anyone who hasn’t lived with a parent in decades, the relationship was certainly tested on many levels, but prevailed and was stronger in the end.
Returning home after nearly 8 months, the mess from her 14-hour workdays hit her hard. Did I mention that she lives in a travel trailer? Less than 200 sq. feet of living space means limited space and any mess is a big mess, and in her case messes where everywhere. Most of my customers simply shut the door on a room or space with a big mess, but in this case she couldn’t do that, perhaps that was the impetus for the Colorado trip…
After being back home for a month and getting nowhere fast in terms of cleaning up, she was now only sleeping on half of the bed because the other half became consumed by clothes. She resolved to bring in reinforcements for a final decluttering push, ready to move on with her life. This job, more than any other job I’ve worked, was one of accountability. I was there so she’d get it done. She couldn’t tackle the task alone. This left her feeling stuck and unmotivated. She became depressed. She needed motivation, encouragement and support. (Three of my favorite things to provide.)
I’ve never worked in a trailer before, and was looking forward to having a new experience. It was definitely that. For three days we worked together untangling her home. She knew there were lots of clothes to get rid of and I was her cheering squad as she made tough decisions. Her determination impressed me. Tough decisions wrestled within her, though she knew they were necessary. There was just no other way.
I have said to clients in the past “you can’t make your space grow, you only have the space you have and if you can’t get everything to fit, then you will need to scale back.” This experience put that concept in a whole new light. She had a tiny little closet – about 6 feet across and only 3 feet of hanging space because the other 3 feet had shelves. There were three 24” x 15”x 10” drawers and four 14”x14”x6” drawers. That’s it. Everything she would wear would have to fit into those spaces. There was just nowhere else for them to go.
On the first day she sorted through the clothes on the floor and bed of her tiny bedroom – only 7’ x 9’ with a queen sized bed and very little walking space). She gathered two trash bags of dirty clothes from the floor and took them to be cleaned.
That made enough room to go through and purge the clean clothes. Two trash bags of donations left from that. We tackled her freshly laundered clothes next, knowing we’d have to downsize further. Ultimately, we filled another trash bag for donation. How amazing is that?!
She took multiple “mental breaks” to regroup and catch her breath before pressing on. Together we hung a spice rack, and cleaned spills and leaks that had occurred in the time she was away. Items were placed in the underbelly (outside compartments), and we reconfigured the wires. The spiders that had taken up residence during her absence were evicted. We spruced up. We went through stacks of papers, weeded out items that she just didn’t need anymore, and put away items she wanted to keep.
What impressed me more than anything else was how organized she was. I know that sounds funny considering she hired an organizer to help her, but she didn’t hire me to organize her as much as motivate her. She practiced organization. Everything already had a very specific place, and she knew precisely where everything went. And most everything had a trick to getting it out and putting it away. She has to go through multiple steps for nearly everything and has been doing so for many years. A mission of mine when I organize is to limit the number of steps it will take to retrieve or put something away, but in the case of living in a tiny space, that isn’t an option. If you want it, you must be willing to go through the steps to retrieve it and put it away, however many that takes.
In a tiny place, there is no room for frivolity, only essentials. That’s not to say she didn’t have any superfluous items but only a few. Regular purging is essential in a tiny space. For simplicity and sanity it’s wise to adhere to the rule “only keep that which you love”.
I was happy to share organizing tips with a woman who had lived a minimalist life for 7 years. She had embraced living with less. We rolled some items and refolded others to allow many more to fit in a drawer. I was also able to illuminate the benefit of disposing old electronics boxes and unnecessary documentation. This alone freed up quite a bit of valuable space. I felt like I helped with the organization process. After all, clients always hire me for my organizing skills, and I was missing the work!
It was truly a unique experience that I will not forget anytime soon. I recalled my days living in a single room, where space constraints forced me to stay organized. Despite the limitations, I was happy and content and never felt the need for more. Living with less encourages careful choices about what occupies your space.
Those who live in tiny homes serve as a reminder for others that have more space. That living with less; living intentionally, keeping only that which you love, means surrounding yourself with things you love. Imagine what that must be like. I think it would be fantastic. Everything around you would bring you joy. How amazing would that be?